When I decided to have a baby, fear showed up. I thought, "What if I turn out to be a terrible mother? What if I fail at motherhood?"
When I decided to start a business, fear showed up. I thought, "What if I fail and everyone laughs at me?"
When I decided to lose weight, fear showed up. I thought, "What if I just can't do it and I stay overweight forever. What if I fail at losing weight?"
Whenever fear showed up, that term "What if" followed right along with it. I was afraid of doing things, then I'd add to that fear when I thought about the unknown that "What if" brought to my life.
So, one day I decided to just answer it.
First, I answered the baby questions, "What if I turn out to be a terrible mother? What if I fail at motherhood?"
When I actually answered this question it became clear to me that the question itself was illogical.
I was not going to be a terrible mother. And I would not fail at motherhood. I would love my baby, no matter what. I would take care of my baby, no matter what. I would be there for my baby, no matter what. If I did all that, it's not even possible to be a terrible mother or fail at motherhood.
My result is that I had a baby and I'm an awesome mother. I do love my baby. I do take care of my baby. And I do make sure I'm there for my baby every single day.
Second, I answered the business question, "What if I fail and everyone laughs at me?"
In order to answer this question, I had to define what failure is. And I figured out that the only way to fail in business, is to give up. If you keep going and you don't stop taking actions that move you forward, there's no way you can fail.
Failure in business = Giving up
And who is "everyone" anyways? Will everyone in the entire world laugh at me? It's completely illogical to think everyone in the entire world will laugh at me.
Will some people laugh at me? Maybe. But who cares?
Starting a business has always been a goal of mine. And I know I can help a lot of people with the type of business I've started. So, that's what I have decided to focus on. Not a few people who may laugh at me at some point in the future.
I decided to be 100% committed to my business. To take actions that push me forward, even if things take longer than I think they will. And that's exactly what I'm doing.
Third, I answered the weight loss questions, "What if I just can't do it and I stay overweight forever. What if I fail at losing weight?"
When I sat down to answer this question, the first thing that came to mind was, "So what?"
So what if I stay overweight forever?
So what if I fail at losing weight?
For me, looking at it this way took all the pressure off. And I knew, similar to my business answer, I just had to keep taking actions that move me forward. Failure with weight loss will only happen if I give up.
Once I realized that, the question became, "Am I committed to losing weight."
It was very easy for me to answer this question. The answer was yes. And all of the results I have in my life today prove it.
Nowadays, the fear is still there. It's a completely normal part of being a human being. But I don't let the fear stop me.
I ask myself all the illogical questions in my brain. Then, I answer them logically. And I move forward anyways...with fear by my side.
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