I want to tell you a story about Jane.
She's not a real person but her story may sound familiar.
Jane wants to lose 45 pounds. She's wanted to lose this weight for a couple of years now. She's tried many different diets to make it happen but she's been unsuccessful with all of them.
Jane doesn't want to give up but she's feeling confused and frustrated.
She doesn't know what to do to lose the weight.
Then she realized that, although she wants to lose the weight, she has sort of become comfortable with who she is now.
She's become comfortable as a person who wants to lose weight but who never does. She's comfortable with the emotional pain that's produced as a result of not reaching her weight loss goals.
Jane feels fear and resistance because she doesn't want to leave her comfortable pain behind to move towards the unknown.
Losing weight is the unknown. And her future self, the person who has lost the weight, is the unknown.
Who will she become?
How will she feel?
What will change for her if she loses the weight?
She doesn't know.
And because she doesn't know, she's inadvertently holding herself back from losing weight.
But now that she's realized this is happening, she's ready to take action and move toward the unknown.
She starts by writing her past self a letter. It looks a little something like this...
I'm angry because you didn't do the work necessary to lose the weight. And because you didn't do the work, I now have to do it.
I'm sad because you deserve better. I deserve better. We both deserve better. And I'm sad because you wasted all this time.
I wish you hadn't gotten so comfortable with who you are now because it's not who you want to be in the long run. And now that you're so comfortable, it'll be a little harder for me to make changes around here.
I'm sorry that you feel confused and frustrated. And I'm sorry that you feel stuck.
I love you because I know you were just doing the best you could at the time.
Thank you for taking care of everything up to this point. You've done an amazing job.
Now, it's up to me to take us to the next level.
Goodbye, (Past) Jane.
Now that Jane has said goodbye to her past self, she can focus on her future self.
To do this, Jane envisions herself 45 pounds lighter.
She thinks about what she's thinking and feeling as a woman who has reached her weight loss goals.
Then, she writes a letter as her future self. The letter is her future self giving her current self advice. It looks a little something like this...
Losing 45 pounds and reaching our goal weight has been an interesting experience.
I still feel happy sometimes and not-so-happy other times. And I realize now that will never change.
But one thing has changed that puts the cherry on top of it all...I feel a tremendous amount of accomplishment and pride for reaching this goal. I feel trust in myself that I'll do what I say I'm going to do. And I feel capable and confident in my ability to not overeat.
Looking in the mirror and seeing myself 45 pounds lighter is definitely amazing but the confidence I feel is even better. It's unlike anything I've ever felt before. I truly believe I can reach any goal I have for us in the future.
So, as you start our weight loss journey, I've got a few very important tips for you.
You can do this, Jane. And as your future self, I thank you in advance for the hard work you'll do.
It's all worth it. You are worth it. I am worth it. We're both worth it.
Comfortable pain will hold you back from losing weight.
Instead, move towards the unknown. The unknown of losing weight. And the unknown of who you will become in the future after you've lost the weight.
Start by writing a letter to your past self to say goodbye. Write down all the things you want yourself to know. Let it all out. Don't hold back.
Then, envision yourself as future you, the person who has lost the weight. And let her give current you advice.
What would future you tell you to stop doing?
What would future you tell you to start doing?
What other advice would future you give you?
After you write your letters, it's time to get started with your weight loss goals.
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