[PODCAST EPISODE 45] The Mom CountdownsSep 23, 2021
About the show:
Do you ever find yourself counting down to things? For example, maybe you count down to your kids' bedtime. Or maybe you count down to the weekend. Or maybe you count down to when you'll reach your ideal weight. If you do this, you're not alone, but these countdowns may be making things harder for you. They may be making it harder for you to reach your weight loss goal. Listen to this episode to hear about the mom countdowns and how you can change your experience to make weight loss easier for you.
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Welcome to the Weight Loss Before and After Pregnancy Podcast. The place you’ll get simple strategies you can apply to your life today to start losing weight. Strategies that’ll help you reach your goal, move on with your life, and focus on the things that matter most to you. I’m your host, Certified Life and Weight Coach, Andrea Scalici. Let’s get started.
Hey, everybody. Welcome to episode 45.
Today, we're going to talk about something I call “The Mom Countdowns.”
And based on the title of this podcast episode, you might already know what I'm going to be talking about here. But if you don't, as soon as I start talking about it, as soon as I, you know, define it and how I'm going to talk about it in this podcast, I think you're going to understand. Because a lot of my clients do this, a lot of my friends do this, a lot of my family members do this, and I even do this sometimes.
The mom countdowns, they directly affect a lot of the things in our lives, including our weight loss. So of course, we're going to talk about it on this podcast.
But before we really get into it, I just wanted to quickly mention that my son Enzo has started school. And my son Nico has started at daycare.
My husband and I really wanted both of our boys in these specific schools that they're attending. We weren't sure if it was going to happen, you know, based on availability and finances and all of the things, but we made it happen and I could not be more proud, more excited, I could not be happier.
My boys are in the schools we were hoping they would be in. We made it happen. They're there now. And I am back working on my coaching business full time.
With that said, I also wanted to thank those of you who have sent me messages. I receive a lot of emails, and messages on social media, and I do also get some reviews for this podcast. I read every single one of them and I appreciate every message.
I especially love when you tell me how this podcast is helping you lose weight, is helping you feel better emotionally, I love when you tell me what topics that you want to hear about more. It really helps me create more episodes that will continue to help you.
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Okay. Let's talk about the mom countdowns. Here is what I mean by that.
Have you ever noticed that you might be counting down to things? Like I'm counting down the time between now and when my husband or partner comes home from work?
I'm counting down the time to when I can start my new job.
I'm counting down the time till bedtime, till the kids are in bed.
I'm counting down the time until my kids are older and can take care of themselves more.
I'm counting down the time between now and when school starts.
I'm counting down the time between now and summer.
I'm counting down the time between now and vacation or the weekend or holidays or 5:00 when I can crack a bottle open. It's 5:00 somewhere, right?
I’m counting down the time until I lose my weight.
These are just a couple of examples of what I call the mom countdowns. Can you relate to any of these or can you think of some other examples?
As moms I know we have a lot going on. I know about. And sometimes we count down in our minds without even realizing it or sometimes we do realize it but we do it anyways. And I want to ask you one question.
When you're counting down to something, how does that make you feel? Is it a positive feeling or a negative feeling? Can you actually figure out the feeling that you have in the moment? Like, can you put a name on the emotion? Is it some sort of anticipation or negative anticipation? What is it?
My guess is, based on what I hear from my coaching clients and my friends and family, and even myself when I do this, is that when I'm counting down to things, it does not feel good. Even when I'm counting down to fun things like vacation or summer or the weekend or anything like that. And if you're doing this and it's not feeling good to you, it's really good for us to talk about here in this podcast and become aware of.
It doesn't matter what we're counting down to, like I said, it could be something exciting or it could be something not exciting, but either way, when we're counting down to something, we're basically not allowing ourselves to enjoy the moment, the now. We are looking forward to the future, but we are kind of disregarding the now, you know what I mean?
In this episode, let's talk specifically about counting down to when we reach our ideal weight, our weight loss goal. It doesn't matter how much weight you want to lose. It could be 10 pounds, 25 pounds, 50 pounds, 100 pounds or more. It doesn't matter what the number is.
If you are counting down to when you lose your weight, you are basically looking forward to reaching that point. And you might be thinking that you're going to feel differently when you reach that goal, right? It's like when I lose 50 pounds, I'm going to feel proud of myself. When I lose 50 pounds, I'm going to feel happy all of the time. When I lose 50 pounds, I'm going to feel satisfied with my life.
But guess what? When we lose that 50 pounds or whatever your number is, it doesn't change the way you feel. And when a lot of people reach that goal, they realize that this is true. And then they feel disappointed.
Let's say I set a goal to lose 50 pounds. I don't care how long it's going to take. Might take me 6 months, a year, or longer. It doesn't matter. I set a goal to lose that weight. If I'm counting down between now and when I lose that 50 pounds and I'm not allowing myself to enjoy the now, enjoy the moment, enjoy every step of the way, then I'm going to reach that 50 pound goal and I'm going to feel exactly the same.
This happens time and time again with people. And it's just because we're a little confused. That's all. We're confused. We think that the number on the scale or the size clothing that we wear or the size of our body or any of those things, we think those things determine how we feel.
But when we think about the model, which is a coaching tool that I use, and it's something I've talked about before on this podcast, when we think about the model, we know that that just isn't true. Our weight, the number on the scale, the size clothing that we wear, the size of our body, even our weight loss goal, all of those things are just circumstances. They're just facts in our life. And we get to decide how we want to think about them.
The big thing to remember here is those circumstances do not affect the way we feel. There's a little step in between there that we sometimes forget. And it's the thoughts. The thoughts about those things, about those circumstances, those facts in our lives, the thoughts are what produce the feelings.
So if I lose all my weight, if I'm down 50 pounds or whatever the number is, it's not going to change how I feel about myself as a person, about my body, about anything in my life. The only thing that can affect the way I feel is my thinking.
Now you can lose your weight. You can get to your ideal weight by counting down and not enjoying every step of the way. You can do that. But doing things this way makes things so much harder for you. And I am all about making things easier for you and helping you feel better every step of the way.
So the way that you do that is become aware immediately. Are you counting down to certain things in your life? Are you counting down to your weight loss goal? If you are, how is that making you feel? And do you think that reaching your weight loss goal will change the way you feel? Answer those questions for yourself to really get an idea of where you're at right now.
And if you find that you are doing this, if you are counting down to your weight loss goal, if you are thinking that you're going to feel better about yourself or your body or anything else in your life, when you reach that goal, gently remind yourself right now that that is not going to happen.
Changing the number on the scale is not going to change how you feel and you get to choose right now in this moment today, if you want to enjoy every step of this weight loss process.
And I'm not talking about tomorrow or the day after that, that's when you get to enjoy it. No I'm talking about today right now, this exact moment that you're hearing this podcast episode, you can start right now, enjoying the weight loss process, thinking differently about yourself, thinking differently about your body. You can start this right now. You can feel better emotionally right now.
You can still count down if you want to. I won't take that away from you. So count down to whatever you want to count down. Countdown to your weight loss goal. Just know that you create that entire experience. From now until the time you reach that goal, and even after that, you create what that experience is going to be for you. You can have it be easy for you by choosing to enjoy every step of the way. Or you can have it be hard for you by thinking that things are going to be different when you reach that number.
It's totally up to you. I of course recommend though, that you enjoy every step of the way. You work on your thoughts and feelings right now about who you are today, about the body that you have today. You get to decide how you want to think and feel about who you are right now.
Do you want to make it easy on yourself or do you want to make it hard? Of course, like I said, I recommend you make it easier.
You can work on feeling like you can do this. You can reach your weight loss goal. You can enjoy every step of the way. You can have the life you want right now, while still going towards your weight loss goal. You don't have to wait until you’ve lost 50 pounds or whatever your number is to feel that way. You can feel that way right now. And if you do, if you do the work to get yourself there, the weight loss process will become so much easier.
Enjoy every step. Whether you want to keep the mom countdowns or not is totally up to you.
Alright, that's it for today. I'll talk to you next week.
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