[PODCAST EPISODE 9] Dealing with PainNov 19, 2020
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About the show:
Listen to this episode to learn how to deal with pain and reach your weight loss goals at the same time. If you're experiencing pain or discomfort, you can still be successful with weight loss. You just need the right tools to get you there.
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- Learn more about The 6 Stages Weight Loss Program
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Welcome to the Weight Loss Before and After Pregnancy Podcast. The place you’ll get simple strategies you can apply to your life today to start losing weight. Strategies that’ll help you reach your goal, move on with your life, and focus on the things that matter most to you. I’m your host, Certified Life and Weight Coach, Andrea Scalici. Let’s get started.
Hey everybody. Welcome to episode number 9.
I know it’s been a little while since the last episode and I do apologize for that. I’ve been thinking a lot about you and have wanted to connect. And I’m really happy to be back on the podcast now.
Let me quickly tell you what I’ve been up to because it sort of ties into today’s episode. So, my husband and I decided to try to get pregnant with our second child this year. And in August, we found out we were successful. So, these past few months I’ve been in the first trimester of my pregnancy and have been feeling extremely nauseous and uncomfortable and just not like myself.
If you’ve ever gone through this, then you know how all-consuming the physical discomfort can be.
It’s like 24/7 nausea, sickness, pain, some dizziness, some of everything.
And, then there’s the emotional pain. The confusion, the thinking something might be wrong with the baby, the worry about the future and giving birth during COVID, or the worry about my first child accepting and getting along with the new baby, just everything piles on all at once.
Physical pain and emotional pain all tied together in one big bow.
I know not every pregnant woman deals with this. There are some lucky ones out there who don’t feel these things. But I’m not one of the lucky ones.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m grateful and excited to be having my second child. But the pregnancy portion of the deal is not my favorite.
Though I think I’m finally turning a corner on the physical discomfort. And because I’m a professional Life Coach, I know how to manage the emotional stuff. So, things are looking up over here. And like I said, I’m really happy to be back on the podcast talking to you.
Spending these past few months in the fetal position or hugging the toilet bowl made me think about those of you dealing with other kinds of physical pain. And that physical pain may be making it harder for you to lose weight, if weight loss is your goal.
Now, this is a weight loss podcast. So, let me be clear. I’m not at all saying there is a connection between weight loss and pregnancy. I help motivated women lose weight before and after their pregnancy only when their doctors have given them the OK to start losing weight again. Not one moment before that.
So, when I shared with you my story about my pregnancy, the physical and emotional stuff I’m dealing with, I was in no way implying that I’m trying to lose weight during this time of my life. I was just sharing with you what I’ve been up to these past few months.
No trying to lose weight during pregnancy. Follow your doctor's orders. That’s what I’m doing. Ok, hopefully that’s clear.
But there are many women out there actively trying to lose weight, who aren’t pregnant, and who are dealing with physical pain of some kind. Maybe it’s back pain, neck pain, leg pain, just any kind of physical pain or discomfort.
And on top of the physical pain, there’s the added emotional pain that sometimes comes along with it. The confusion, the worry, the self-loathing or self-pity. Maybe the frustration or annoyance about the pain itself or having to deal with it.
Here’s what I want to say about all that.
For the physical pain, see a doctor.
For the emotional pain, you can learn how to manage it. How to reduce it. How to not let it make the symptoms you feel physically worse by adding on emotional pain. You know what I mean?
It’s like my leg hurts. I feel off my bike and have a huge gash on my leg. And I’m thinking, “That was stupid. I feel off my bike. Now I have to deal with this gash in my leg. I don’t have time for this. I don’t want to deal with this. It hurts. Someone take this pain away. I shouldn’t have to deal with it.” And all of those thoughts cause me to feel annoyed and frustrated which make the physical pain of the gash in my leg worse.
I feel off my bike. It’s done. I have a gash in my leg. It’s done. Now I need to treat it. But what I don’t need is the added commentary in my mind about the incident and I don’t need to feel annoyed or frustrated about it, unless I just really want to. In which case, there’s no problem here.
But if I don’t want to feel the added annoyance or frustration, there is a way to manage the emotional distress.
It’s simple. Number one, know where your emotions come from. They come from your thoughts, not your circumstances, not the gash in your leg, or your pregnancy pain. Number two, be aware of your thoughts and feelings. And number three, intentionally decide how you want to feel.
That’s it. Simple as that.
If you know your emotions come from your thoughts, and you’re aware of what you’re thinking and feeling, you have all the power over your emotional life. You are empowered to feel how you want to feel at any point in your day. Even if you fall off your bike and have a huge gash in your leg.
So, back to our bike accident example. If you want to feel annoyed or frustrated after a bike accident, after you hurt your leg, that’s your choice. You can feel that way if you want to. And maybe you do. Whatever you’re thinking about in that moment will determine your feelings. But just be clear with yourself that you’re not feeling that way because of your accident or the gash in your leg or even the physical pain you feel. All of those things are just circumstances, things that just are what they are.
The physical pain is something that starts in your body and it’s something you feel in your body. The emotional pain is something that starts in your brain, with a thought, and you feel it in your body as an emotion.
What can sometimes happen is this. You feel physical pain. Maybe a gash in your leg. You think thoughts that produce emotions in your body. And if those emotions don’t feel good, you might find yourself eating or even overeating to drown those negative emotions out.
But you don’t have to fall into that cycle. And if you’re actively trying to lose weight and if you’re experiencing physical pain of some kind, again, not pregnant physical pain, then you’ll really want to pay attention here.
When you’re feeling something physically that you don’t like, it can be confusing to decipher what’s physical and what’s emotional. So, I recommend starting with a piece of paper and pen. Make a simple t-chart. On one side, write all your physical symptoms. On the other side, write down all your emotions about your physical pain.
Let yourself separate them and see them clearly for what they are. This will help you become more aware of the differences between them. And this will help you learn how to become more aware of them as they’re happening in the moment.
Awareness is key here. And awareness will give you the opportunity to intentionally decide how you want to think and feel about your physical pain moving forward.
There’s no one way to think and feel. You might want to be annoyed and frustrated one day. And you might want to be accepting and tolerating of it the next day. It doesn’t matter what you decide. It just matters that you intentionally decide because you’ll feel in control. You’ll feel powerful. And chances are, you won’t eat or overeat when you’re feeling that way.
Many people don’t want to feel good about feeling bad. And that’s totally ok. That makes sense. These past few months that I’ve been sick in the fetal position or hugging the toilet bowl, I don’t want to feel good about that. I don’t want to try to trick my brain into thinking it’s awesome to physically feel sick. Because I wouldn’t believe myself.
Just like if you got into a bike accident and had a gash on your leg. You probably wouldn’t want to feel good about that. But if you are intentional about feeling bad about your physical pain, then you’ll also have a sense of power over your emotions.
You’ll know they come from your thoughts, not your circumstances or your physical pain. And you’ll know you made a decision, powerfully, intentionally, to feel how you want to feel about it. That’s what you can do, what you can control.
Whatever physical pain you’re experiencing can still suck. But at least you’ll have control over your emotional life. And, if you’re trying to lose weight, the control you’ll feel over your emotional life will lead to feeling more control over what food you put into your body.
I want you to succeed with your weight loss goals. I want you to feel better emotionally everyday. I want you to have all the tools that I’ve had these past few months that have made my discomfort manageable.
So, with that said, I am personally inviting you into The 6 Stages Weight Loss Program. My program that will teach you exactly how to get control over your emotions and your eating. Don’t wait another minute. Join me over at mcccoaching.com/join.
Alright. I’m so glad we got to reconnect today. I’ll talk to you in the next episode.
If you loved this podcast, I want to invite you to check out The 6 Stages Weight Loss Program. It’s my signature program that’ll teach you everything you need to know from start to finish to lose weight, reach your goal, and maintain it once you’re there. You’ll also learn how to have your own back through the process. Join me over at mcccoaching.com/join. I’ll see you there.